I have been "that guy" in the past. I look at it now and realize how utterly awful and just creepy I was. Well I've been a creep many times, and thankfully with a lot of cultivation I've put most of it behind (I would love to say all of it, but I have to be honest when I say that I still have too much shit inculcated in me and that it's a continual process of becoming). One time my friend and I hung out with these girls from a Mumia march we went to, and things were pretty cool, then one of the girls I had a crush on I asked on a date. It was clear she wasn't fully keen on it (at least I see it now), but she went on a last date with me at a japanese restaurant for lunch before she went home for summer break. I could tell she really didn't want to be there. That was probably the second clearest example of such a thing...

It took me having the opportunity to be around social justice issues to start to be aware. If I hadn't started dating Rose when I did, I don't know what I would have become. The more of us that speak out, the better.

I hope you're feeling better now. *non-threatening virtual hugs*