The farther you are from power and privilege, the less freedom you have to bend the rules of conventional lifestyles and attractiveness.

When I was in high school, one of my acquaintances discovered feminism and decreed that No Woman Ought To Shave Her Pits and Arms. Which, in theory, is something that I accept as true. But. She was a slim, conventionally attractive blond girl, and her unshaven hair looked like duck down, and she had no problem getting jobs, teachers' approval, friends, and boyfriends despite her natural state (she could also get away with no makeup). Whereas on me, the same thing reads as slovenly and lazy, and I have relatively light hair.