NewsFlash, Knight Guy: if women really wanted to date assholes, they'd be lining up for you.
I think it's really appropriate that this guy is holding himself out as a "knight of old" because the reality is that "knights of old" were pretty horrific. Also I love the cut-off bit where he's all "you shouldn't reject me just cause I'm ugly". because you know, I'm sure he's interested in finding a "princess" who isn't conventionally gorgeous.
As an aside, I don't actually think that the Heartless Bitches piece is very accurate w/r/t Nice Guys. I don't think Nice Guys are necessarily insecure, nor do I think there is only one set of Nice Guy actions. I don't think they often are as sincere as the author suggests - that they really worship the particular woman they're pursuing. I think they resent the woman for having something they want.
To me, the hallmark of a Nice Guy is acting "nice" because he thinks it's some kind of quid pro quo that entitles him to a girl (as opposed to because he's actually a nice person, or wants to do the right thing). And then gets pissy and hostile if it does not win over the girl in question. General whining about women a la Knight Guy above is also the hallmark of the Nice Guy. But what his psychological problem is that causes him to act this way - insecurity, sociopathy, general assholeness - is irrelevant.
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Date: 2012-06-25 09:26 pm (UTC)NewsFlash, Knight Guy: if women really wanted to date assholes, they'd be lining up for you.
I think it's really appropriate that this guy is holding himself out as a "knight of old" because the reality is that "knights of old" were pretty horrific. Also I love the cut-off bit where he's all "you shouldn't reject me just cause I'm ugly". because you know, I'm sure he's interested in finding a "princess" who isn't conventionally gorgeous.
As an aside, I don't actually think that the Heartless Bitches piece is very accurate w/r/t Nice Guys. I don't think Nice Guys are necessarily insecure, nor do I think there is only one set of Nice Guy actions. I don't think they often are as sincere as the author suggests - that they really worship the particular woman they're pursuing. I think they resent the woman for having something they want.
To me, the hallmark of a Nice Guy is acting "nice" because he thinks it's some kind of quid pro quo that entitles him to a girl (as opposed to because he's actually a nice person, or wants to do the right thing). And then gets pissy and hostile if it does not win over the girl in question. General whining about women a la Knight Guy above is also the hallmark of the Nice Guy. But what his psychological problem is that causes him to act this way - insecurity, sociopathy, general assholeness - is irrelevant.