The Antisocial Socialist

Today must be International Schrödinger's Rapist Day. Seriously. What the fuck is wrong with men? And I say this as someone who likes men enough that they're one of the genders I'd consider having a long-term relationship with.

My reaction when I read that you "asked him why on earth he found it appropriate to hit on women who were sitting alone in an isolated location" was pretty much this:



I may have even cried a little because that was a beautiful, amazing reaction. I wish my brain-mouth filters were off more often in this kind of situation.

Seriously though, that guy sounds CREEPY. I doubt that you turn him into a MRA, if he's already a douchebag then it's pretty much a given that the MRA (bad) seed has been in his heart for a long time now. I actually admire the fact that you managed to tell him about figures and other logical things, I don't think I would have been able to be quite so educational. Maybe there's a remote possibility that he'll think about it eventually and change his behaviour in the long run.

Also? That old lady is completely right. You were very wise to not have engaged him. I see your point about having second-thoughts, and unfortunately it has happened to me too often in the past, but I assure you that his approach was completely messed up if you were alone and had no means to escape if he were indeed a rapist. If he was just trying to harmlessly flirt with you, he needs to get better flirting skillz that don't consist of trying to corner women so they'll give him their phone numbers. I hate the "was I too harsh?" feeling, but from my past experiences I've come to learn that trusting your gut instinct is always the right thing to do. If you turn out to be wrong, well, it's not a big loss.



All of your "lesson" points are so, so spot-on. I kind of want to print them out and stick them to the forehead of most men I know.

*hugs if you want hugs*